As your life coach, my goal is to guide you along your path of success. But what exactly does it take to achieve that success? While it is not an overnight process, it isn’t as complicated as you might think. There is a “CATCH” however. In order to establish a healthy and professional coach-client relationship, five things must take place throughout the course of our time spent together. Commitment. Accountability. Thought-provoking questions. Consistency. Honesty.
Commitment: I need you to be to committed, not just in time, but in intention and action. As your life coach, I want you to be successful, but I want you to want it even more. Before we book a session, you have to make up in your mind that enough and enough and this time, you’re going to start doing this, or stop doing that. Create a vision board, recite a list of daily affirmations, delete and block that number (for good this time), throw away the cookies, whatever it is! Be intentional with the change you want to make.
Accountability: And speaking of change, have you heard the phrase “the change I want to see must first begin in me”? It may sound a little corny but it is so true that change begins with the person. You have to be accountable for the change you want. You want to cut that toxic person out of your life. You can’t control them still attempting to contact you, but you can control yourself contacting them. You want to cut out sweets. You can’t control the company still baking cookies but you can control what you purchase when you go to the grocery store. You have the power to control what you can control.
Thought-provoking questions: This is actually my part and this is what can make or break a coach-client relationship. As a life coach, my job is not to tell you what to do. If you ask me for my opinion on something, I will share. Life coaches have to do a lot of listening because you, the client, are the star of this show. It’s YOUR goals, YOUR desired outcomes that are the focus of the coach-client relationship. Even if you don’t currently have all the tools and resources you need to accomplish those goals and desired outcomes, you more than likely have at least bits and pieces of an idea. My job is to ask you powerful questions to get you thinking and verbalizing those bits and pieces. From there, we’ll brainstorm and strategize how to put those bits and pieces together, determine what’s missing, and bridge the gaps.
Consistency: Remember how I said that your commitment isn’t just in time but it’s also in intention and action? We discussed intention but let’s not neglect how valuable time (both yours and mine) is. The first part of being consistent is showing up each and every time we agree to a session. Show me and prove to yourself how serious you are about making those changes. The second but equally important part of being consistent is doing your action items and actually doing them consistently. Doing something one good time isn’t always enough, especially when you’re trying to establish a lifestyle change. Have you ever heard how it takes 21 days to form a habit? Well, I don’t know how true that is, but the bottom line is that you have to do something repetitiously until it becomes a habit, then part of a lifestyle. You want to start brushing your teeth every night before bed? Do it tonight. Then do it again tomorrow. And do it again the next night and the night after that. This is a pretty basic example but but you get the idea.
Honesty: Part of my commitment to you as your coach is to create a sacred space. There will be no judging and no sharing with anyone. Everything we discuss is kept between you and I, however honesty is key about where you’re starting so that we can come up with a game plan on how to get you where you want to go. We don’t want any false starts over here!